Why can’t your dreams come true?

We are surrounded by stories of successful people. These stories generate a sense of positivity and hope we all need in our life, which makes us believe we can “make it” too. There is always a fraction of a second where our mind thinks: if she did it, I could do it too!

But then what happens? Why don’t we pursue what we thought for that second? What pushes us back? It may be fear of failure. There is this great quote from Pablo Coehlo that I’ve loved since I was a teenager, in my years when I was a dancer: “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

You’re no different than any of the successful individuals you hear about. So, why can’t your dreams come true?

This might sound like a tall order to you. “True” sounds hard and “dream” sounds childish. In fact, it’s probably the combination of hard and childish that puts our dreams on hold and makes us scared to fail. Our ego starts to play with our mind, saying things like, “You’re too old for this now, you should’ve started earlier,” or “It’s too hard to start the business you’re envisioning,” or “You don’t have the qualification to start this.”

I want to shift your perception of obstacles. Most of us see obstacles as bad things: inconveniences that hold us back. Obstacles can be great; they can condition us. Think about an athlete that needs to train to improve their performance. Every day, the training will be harder and harder to improve their strength before competing. Once they understand which muscles to engage, how to lift heavier weights, jump higher, or run faster, the obstacles become easier to overcome.

“Do what you love, love what you do, and you will love your life.”

We can spend days, weeks, months, and years in careers that are not aligned to who we are as spiritual beings. Your career is one of the most important parts of your life, as we spend between seven and eight hours at work per day. Finding alignment in our career can lead to harmony and positively affect our spirituality, health, and relationships, so we can live our life with a purpose and be truly happy.

You don’t need to change your job today to find something you love. You can also learn to love the work you do right now. You can find gratification and beauty in your job, today. As you are reading this article, make a list of three things you appreciate about your job. Read them out loud and see if you find a sense of fulfilment just by reading this list.

It’s important to acknowledge where we are without living our life on autopilot. We must have the courage to look at the dark side and see what patterns we can change, step by step.

Take a moment now to visualise yourself in a calm environment, by a beach during the sunset or on top of a beautiful green mountain, and ask yourself: “What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?”

Could a plan help to make your dream come true?

The easiest way to turn a dream into reality is one step at a time.

1) Visualise Your Dream Life

I work a lot with vision boards with my clients. It’s incredibly important to have our dream life in front of us and to use images to really attract what we want. Without thinking about other people and their judgments, can you be honest with yourself when thinking about what you want from your life?

• Where would you like to live?
• Which kind of work is more aligned with you?

» Make a list of as many things as you can think of, big or small, that you would do if you weren’t afraid. You can start to make your board with images on PowerPoint or on a board with printed photos from magazines – anything that can help you to reinforce your beliefs and the law of attraction.

2) Acknowledge Your Obstacles

Is there anything in your life you know you need to confront but have been avoiding? This can be related to anything in your life right now: standing up to your boss, ending your relationship, starting healthy nutrition habits, exercising every morning, organizing your home environment. The fear of failure makes us slow and lazy, so we feel stuck with no energy or motivation to get it done.

» Write a list of all the obstacles in your life right now, acknowledge them, and just breathe. Clarity is key to starting to overcome them.

3) Identify What Scares You The Most

Once you highlight from the list the things that scare you the most, ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that could happen if I fail?

» Write down the worst-case scenario and how you can face it.

4) Choose One Thing At A Time And Get It Done

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

» Now choose from the list one thing you want to get it done and act on it. Ask yourself how you want your life to change between now and a year from now. This gives you the motivation to see a brighter future after you overcome this obstacle.

5) Break It Down Into Small Goals

Now that you’ve clarified what’s not working in your life, make a small goal for the one thing you choose from your list.

»  Put it in your calendar and act on it. Don’t put your head in the sand: now that you’ve seen the issue, you need to act. A reasonable goal each week will help you move in the right direction. You will find the momentum to keep going forward, which will have a ripple effect. Other aspects of your life will unfold magically in the right place.

6) Celebrate Your Wins

Each time you achieve a small goal, even the smallest ever, celebrate it!

» Share it with the people you love. This will strengthen your faith in yourself and motivate you to keep going and living your truth.

Transitions are challenging and it’s normal to have some resistance to them.

But the journey of self-discovery is beautiful – and once you let go of the resistance and let yourself explore your wildest dreams and passions in an honest way, the sky’s the limit!

Fear is only an opportunity to get out of our comfort zone and become who we want to be. Trust that the universe will always guide you if you are true to yourself.

Be positive and Be Grateful for what you have today.

Paola x

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