January is the month we attempt to change everything we didn’t like from the year before. We have all been there, saying, “Okay, from January, I will change my diet,” or “I will start a regular exercise routine,” or “I will drink only once a week,” or “I will look for a new job,” and so on. But, if our mindset is not aligned with our beliefs and our dreams, we cannot achieve that. We will last maybe a month and then go back to square one.


So why don’t we focus on a different project this month, to establish a positive and powerful mindset?


Our reality, and therefore everything that surrounds us, is largely based on our perceptions and what we think is true.

📍 We tend to believe in our opinions and not see the actual facts when they collide with those opinions.

📍 We tend to believe to the stories that we tell ourselves, and this can stop us from exploring our full potential and learning new skills.


Have you ever found that, when you wanted to achieve a goal, someone’s opinion got in the way of your success? Our brain is like a sponge and we passively absorb everything people say to us, even if we think we don’t. Through our lives, we create stories about ourselves and our abilities based on opinions and judgements we had. We shaped ourselves thought the things we think we are good at and we take on board only things we feel comfortable to handle based on our experience so far.


The key to success and to shift our mindset towards it is to deconstruct our story.


If you are ready to deconstruct your story, this exercise is a great place to start. Grab a pen and your journal and reply to each point below.


  1. List three negative opinions you hold about yourself.
  2. Why do you have these opinions?
  3. Is there anyone that influenced these opinions you have about yourself?
  4. What’s one action you can do today to challenge one of these beliefs?
  5. Write down three things you might do if you didn’t believe this
  6. What can you study or learn to improve in this area?


After you replied to these questions, use a fresh page to re-write your story straight away.


To help you stay on track, follow these points and write as much as you want. Be honest – no one is going to read this, only you.


  1. How do you want to feel this year? More confident, more in shape, more energetic…?
  2. Set three realistic goals and write why you want to achieve them.
  3. What are the things you would like to do in your time off?
  4. Which kind of friends and people do you want to attract in your life?
  5. Write down three things you love about yourself and explain why you love those traits.
  6. Conclude with three things you are grateful for from the past year.


Want to achieve your goals and dreams?



Put this letter in a place you can access easily. Try to read it every morning when you wake up and every evening before you go to sleep. This will help you to believe to the new story you are telling yourself and stay focus on your goals and the person you want to be.


You will see that your reality will be shaped by your new story, and like magic, the things you want to achieve will become easier and more realistic. You need to be ready before you feel ready.


“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”



Wishing you a fantastic year ahead!

Paola x